I want to share a lesson from the masterclass I’m currently taking. Most all of us have heard the term “paradigms.” In a nutshell, they are adopted beliefs from someone elses point of view. One of the biggest and most adopted paradigms is the have-be-do. It is the belief that we must “have” money to “be” in a position to “do” the things we want. It sounds logical, but it doesn’t work that way. In fact, the people who do have money don’t think that way. Their paradigm is be-do-have. They act like they have enough and do what they can and then more comes.
I was introduced to this while in the military, I just didn’t know it. I was talking with my Chief about my career and he told me, “You have to think two pay grades ahead of where you are to get promoted.” In other words, as an E-4, I had to think (and act) like an E-6 to get to E-5. It worked, I got the promotion but I didn’t know enough to apply it to the rest of my life.
Changing the paradigm is simple, not easy. It takes practice by changing habits, sometimes people and maybe even a place, or all of them. The only question is what do you want? Again, simple but not necessarily easy. We all have multiple dreams. For some it’s not about having a mansion, but their first house. Others may have the money but not the health or relationship they dream about. It doesn’t matter what the dream or even goal is, changing the paradigm is the key.