As Valentine’s day approaches, there is lot of focus given to relationships. All in the form of “soul mates” and “eternal love”. I have been married three times and honestly loved each one. For a long time I thought there was something wrong with me. After all, why can’t I find that special someone? Then as I began to become aware of who I am and was, I began to see things in a different way. First, I had to come to terms with me. I am happiest when I am able to do what I desire when I want without having to negotiate with someone else’s feelings. Second, I had to discover what I really want in a relationship(s). I am always open to meeting new people and getting to know them on more than a superficial basis. Finally, I had to be open and honest with those around me as to what I want. I can’t say enough about how the burden was lifted and I am now happier than ever before. So this V-day is for me. I will celebrate it with the knowledge that there are a lot of people to meet and share ideas and dreams with even if for a brief period of time.